Fighting Fair

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KEEPING THE FOUNDATION STRONG IN SPITE OF FIGHTS by Diane Webb

(Fighting in a way that does not damage the relationship)

AVOID THE FOLLOWING:

1. Never bring up the past in a fight or argument
2. Never hit below the belt (character assassination)
3. No abuse (physical, verbal or emotional—including name calling).
4. No threats (indirect or direct)

DO MORE OF THE FOLLOWING:

1. Focus on behaviors only
2. Focus on solutions not problems
3. First understand their point of view (even if you don’t agree)
4. Look for win-win solutions
5. Look for “what’s best for the family/relationship” as a whole