CONSEQUENCES FOR CHILDREN by Diane Webb
Very brief time-out by the wall (less than a minute once they completely comply w/ sitting by the wall); or a basic 1 minute per year of age (3 years old equals 3 minutes)
Write an essay, paragraph or sentences
Write definitions
Write a sentence 25 times related to the issue but phrased as if the child already engages in the positive behavior (I never run in the house).
To enforce the above, take something away that the child likes (even though he won’t admit to liking it and; might even say—“I don’t care”) and don’t give it back until the child complies. When he eventually complies (even if 2 weeks later) point out that he got 2 punishments instead of 1 because he took so long to do it.
Chores
Reading a book related to the subject
Have to do X nice things for X people (3 nice things for little sister)
A young child: draw a picture about behavior (draw better way to behave)
Write a poem about the behavior (write a poem about a little boy who did not tell the truth once)
Ask the child what a good punishment would be (what do you think your punishment needs to be?)
Don’t punish but contract with the child for an agreed upon punishment for “the next time”
If something like TV, a video game or a toy is causing the problem then take the item away (explaining why)
If he acts out in public, don’t take him w/ you the next 2 or 3 times you go somewhere (and point out why
Make up a rap song about the incident
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ReplyDeleteThis one reminds me of the concept of "making ammends" -- the idea of doing something good/kind to the person you have wronged in order to help make things better. So, for instance, a child could ask the sibling they have wronged, "What can I do to help make things better?" And the sibling might ask for a glass of water. Or perhaps if they had wronged them by calling them a name, they could tell their sibling something they like about them.
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This could be a really good teaching tool to help them learn in a gentle way.
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*nodding head* I've used this discipline tool quite a bit.
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We didn't do it quite that way (I can't exactly remember how we did it, it was so long ago), but I remember using drawing as tool when my oldest was little! Drawing can be a great tool.
I guess I won't comment on all your ideas. . . this might get really long if I were to do that. :D Thanks for sharing! I love to read others' ideas. :)